SERIES: SPIRITUAL WARFARE IN MARRIAGE

 

 

Let’s address a subtle yet deadly spiritual battle that’s destroying marriages today, the woman who becomes a side chick, not because she wants to marry the man, but because she wants something from him… yet will walk away the moment he leaves his wife.

This woman doesn’t love the man. She loves what he does for her.

 

She doesn’t crave covenant. She craves access.

She doesn’t seek legacy. She seeks control.

And she doesn’t care about building. She’s a spiritual demolition agent, breaking what she never intended to fix or own.

 

 

She may tell herself she’s not ready for commitment, or that marriage is a trap. But behind that is often a deeply rooted spirit of lust and emotional dysfunction. This spirit disguises itself as sexual liberation, but it’s actually bondage. It thrives in secrecy. It enjoys being pursued but not possessed, adored but not accountable.

This woman is emotionally unavailable, yet demands total availability. She doesn’t want him full-time, but she wants him obsessed. She doesn’t want the covenant, but she wants the benefits.

 

She resists structure, order, and anything that requires emotional submission. She doesn’t want to answer to anyone. She may have witnessed toxic marriages growing up or experienced betrayal herself, and now, she vows never to be “tied down.”

But this is more than pain. It becomes rebellion cloaked in independence.

She wants to rewrite the rules of relationship on her own terms. But what she’s doing is aligning with the anti-covenant spirit, the same spirit that seeks to dismantle God’s order for marriage and family.

 

At its core, many of these dynamics are driven by the Jezebel spirit, manipulative, seductive, emotionally calculating, and unrepentant. Jezebel doesn’t need a ring. She just needs influence. She thrives where there’s broken leadership and silent men.

She doesn’t need the man to love her. She just needs him to obey her, feed her ego, and sow into her desires.

 

For some women, this behavior is not driven by arrogance but by unhealed trauma. A girl who watched her mother get abandoned… a teenager who was molested and never protected… a woman who was cheated on repeatedly until her heart hardened, such women may begin to believe love is a lie, and that power is safer than vulnerability.

So she becomes emotionally detached, taking but never giving. Choosing broken men to avoid accountability. Guarding her heart with manipulation because it’s the only language her pain understands.

 

Let’s be honest, some don’t even carry trauma. They’re just entitled.

They want the money, the attention, the comfort, the lifestyle, but not the burden of commitment. They weaponize their beauty, their charm, their sexuality. Everything becomes a transaction. They don’t mind wrecking homes because they see wives as weak and marriage as boring.

But here’s the truth:

If you don’t want to build with him, you have no business breaking what someone else is building.

 

This is spiritual warfare.

We are not just talking about a woman with a bad attitude. We are talking about spirits using wounded or willing vessels to destroy covenants, homes, destinies, and generations.

 

To the woman caught in this trap, God is calling you out, not to shame you, but to restore you. You are more than a secret. You were never created to live in emotional shadows. Come into the light. Let Him heal your brokenness. You can walk away from being a weapon in the enemy’s hand and become a warrior for righteousness.

 

To the man entertaining this kind of relationship, your silence is sin. Your passivity is costing your house. It’s time to repent and close the access doors. You cannot build a kingdom while sleeping with sabotage.

 

This is warfare. Not against people, but against the spirits using people.

Let’s rise in discernment. Let’s rise in purity. And let’s fight for the covenants God has established.