1. The Enemy Always Needs a Vessel

The truth is raw, but it needs to be said: Satan cannot operate without human cooperation. He needs a vessel to carry out his assignments. Just as God uses those who are yielded, broken, and surrendered to His will to advance His Kingdom, the enemy looks for vessels, often those who are wounded, deceived, or vulnerable.

• The “side chick” is often a vessel, sometimes knowingly, but more often unknowingly, used by the enemy to carry out his destructive work.
• This isn’t just about an affair. It’s a spiritual assignment. Satan wants to break what God has joined together, marriages, families, destinies.

Adultery is not simply a physical act; it is often a spiritual attack. The married man who falls into sin is not just a man who stumbled. It’s often a strategic setup orchestrated by hell itself. The enemy knows that when a man falls, the consequences are far-reaching. It affects:

• His legacy
• His children
• His spiritual calling
• The destiny of those connected to him

This isn’t just about two people giving into temptation. It’s about a battle to destroy the foundation of something God created to be holy, marriage.

Behind every sin, there’s a deeper spiritual war at play. The enemy doesn’t need to come with loud, obvious roars. He simply needs a door to slip through, someone who is vulnerable enough to listen to his whispers and be used to sow division.

The enemy is always looking for opportunities to strike.

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”  1 Peter 5:8

• The enemy is searching for openings.
• The “side chick” is sometimes that opening—whether she realizes it or not.

It’s essential to understand that the side chick is not always the villain. She, too, may be broken, deceived, or unaware of the spiritual forces at play. Satan doesn’t just attack marriages; he uses broken people to bring about destruction. Like Judas, who was used by the enemy, individuals may find themselves caught in a web of deceit and lies.

But that doesn’t absolve the consequences of sin. It’s just important to see the bigger picture, the spiritual warfare behind the scenes. This is a battle for hearts, homes, and legacies.

Let us remember that Satan seeks vessels to disrupt what God has created. And in a world full of pain and brokenness, we must recognize the spiritual battle and fight it with prayer, wisdom, and humility.

• Be alert.
• Pray with purpose.
• Guard what God has joined together.

2. Wounded Women Become Easy Targets

The pain many side chicks carry is often hidden, a wound that goes unnoticed by the world but is deeply felt in their hearts. Most “other women” have a story—a story that shapes their actions, choices, and relationships. Many of them were once innocent girls, full of hopes and dreams, but life shattered their perceptions of love.

• Broken hearts: Some were abandoned by fathers who left them searching for love and approval. Others were betrayed by partners who promised to stay but didn’t. Many have been hurt by deep emotional wounds, causing them to build walls around their hearts.

For many, the unhealed father wound becomes a driving force behind their choices. Seeking validation, they may find themselves chasing after unavailable men, hoping that the attention of a married man will give them a sense of worth or being chosen.

• Seeking to feel desired: The side chick doesn’t view the wife as a competitor; instead, she is often intrigued by the marriage. The wife represents the stability, the commitment, and the love that the side chick feels she can never have. She desperately wants to feel more desirable than the wife. This is not about love—it’s about ego and a quest for validation.

The truth: If a woman does not find her identity in Christ, she will try to find it in conquest. Her desire for affection or attention from a married man is a cry for healing that can never truly be answered through human relationships.

• Scripture: “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3)
  • God sees the pain in the heart of the side chick. He understands the brokenness that drives her. But her healing can only come from Him. Without His intervention, she will continue seeking love in all the wrong places, never finding the peace and healing she longs for.

3. The Spirit of Jezebel is Often Behind Her Actions

When we look at the actions of the side chick, it’s importan

t to recognize that there’s often a spiritual influence at play, one that seeks to destroy marriages, families, and God’s order. The Jezebel spirit is one of manipulation, seduction, and control. It’s not about calling names or labeling, but about spiritual discernment.

• Manipulation: A woman under the influence of this spirit may use her charm and femininity to manipulate, control, and seduce. She may play on the emotions of a married man, enticing him with promises of what he’s lacking or desires.
• Seduction and destruction: The Jezebel spirit targets leadership, covenant, and authority. It hates order and seeks to break down what God has established. The enemy knows that if he can destroy marriages, he can destroy a man’s legacy, his children, and his spiritual calling.

Some side chicks may even justify their actions by claiming prophecy or divine will, like saying, “God told me he’s my husband,” while disregarding the fact that he is already married. This deception leads to spiritual confusion, entangling the man in sin and defiling the sanctity of the marriage.

• Scripture: “Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophet. By her teaching, she misleads my servants…” (Revelation 2:20)
  • The Jezebel spirit seduces and deceives. It misleads people into thinking they are operating under divine guidance when, in fact, they are being led by lies. This spirit thrives in deception and seeks to destroy everything in its path.

4. Rejection and Insecurity Are Hidden Roots

For many side chicks, the issue isn’t about a desire to destroy marriages, it’s a cry for love that goes unanswered. Rejection and insecurity often lie hidden beneath the surface of their actions. Many of these women were drawn to married men not because they sought to hurt anyone, but because they were searching for validation.

• The ego’s cry: Many side chicks struggle with a deep-seated belief that they are not enough—that no one truly loves them for who they are. When a man’s attention is given to them, it feels like a trophy, a false sense of worth and self-affirmation. But this attention is fleeting, and it never heals the root of their pain.

Idolatry of love: Seeking love outside of God’s design turns into idolatry. When validation becomes the goal, the side chick becomes trapped in a cycle of ego healing, a cycle that never satisfies.

• Scripture: “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.” (Proverbs 29:25)
  • Seeking validation from human beings, particularly from men, always leads to enslavement—the snare of insecurity and rejection. True safety and identity come when we trust in God alone.

5. The Man is Not a Victim

Let’s get this clear: No one falls into adultery by accident. Adultery is not an accident. It is a decision—a choice. While it may seem easier to blame the side chick, the truth is that many men entertain the idea long before the physical act. They entertain flirtation, engage in emotional intimacy, and allow themselves to cross lines long before they act on them.

• No accidental affair: Spiritual warfare does not excuse sin. We must own our choices. Sin is a choice, and the man is responsible for his actions, not the woman who may be complicit in the sin.

• Scripture: “Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin…” (James 1:14-15)

  • Temptation does not come from others—it starts within. The desire to betray one’s spouse is born out of internal struggle, and sin always starts in the heart. Until we address the internal battles, the external consequences will continue.

6. Satan Mimics What God Ordained

The enemy is a master of counterfeiting. He cannot create anything; he can only mimic what God has already ordained. Every time there’s a crisis in a marriage, the enemy offers a false solution, the attention of someone who promises to understand you, someone who will meet your emotional needs.

• The counterfeit: The enemy doesn’t offer peace; he offers false intimacy. The connection feels real, but it’s a counterfeit. The enemy’s goal is to create a temporary bond that ultimately damages the covenant. It’s a deception that leads to brokenness, both spiritually and relationally.

• Scripture: “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” (Proverbs 14:12)

  • What seems like a way of relief—emotional connection with a side chick—leads to destruction. The enemy’s way always seems appealing, but it ultimately leads to death: death to trust, to relationships, and to one’s spiritual well-being.

7. Emotional Affairs Often Precede Physical Ones

Before the body becomes involved, the heart has already compromised. The emotional connection with a side chick often begins subtly, an innocent conversation, a shared moment of vulnerability, a friendly interaction. But emotional vulnerability opens the door to deeper sin.

• The dangerous pathway: Emotional adultery is often the first step in physical betrayal. When a man shares his emotional struggles with someone other than his wife, he’s breaking emotional intimacy with her and creating a soul tie with the other woman.

• Scripture: “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” (Proverbs 4:23)

  • The heart is the battlefield. Guarding it means keeping it pure and aligned with God’s will. Emotional affairs may seem innocent, but they always lead to deeper sin.

8. Some Are Witches in Disguise

The truth is hard to swallow, but it must be said: Not every side chick is innocent. Some are agents of darkness, working under the influence of demonic spirits, operating in manipulation, seduction, and even witchcraft.

• Demonic influence: These women may use spiritual practices such as sex magic, spells, or new age rituals to seduce and spiritually bind men. These unions are more than physical—they are spiritual bonds that entrap men in sin and confusion.

• Scripture: “For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft…” (1 Samuel 15:23)

  • Rebellion against God’s order often opens the door to witchcraft, manipulation, and spiritual bondage. These actions are not just about a physical affair, they are about spiritual chains that bind.

9. She Needs Deliverance and the Truth

No matter how deep the deception or how destructive the actions, the side chick is a soul Jesus died for. Many of these women are trapped in cycles of pain, trauma, and deception. They need deliverance, not condemnation. Their sin is real, but their story is also real.

• Brokenness behind the actions: Some were molested, abandoned, or emotionally manipulated. Their sin is a symptom of deeper wounds. They need healing, not judgment.

• Scripture: “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” (John 8:32)

  • Truth is the key to freedom. Deliverance comes through the truth of God’s Word and His healing power. They need the Messiah, not another relationship.

10. The Real War is for the Man’s Soul and the Family’s Destiny

This isn’t just about infidelity. It’s about legacy, the spiritual warfare over a man’s soul, his family, and the destiny of his children. The enemy’s goal is not just to break a marriage; he wants to destroy everything that family represents.

• Generational impact: The destruction of a marriage through adultery doesn’t just affect the couple—it affects future generations. Divorce, fatherlessness, and emotional dysfunction are generational curses that the enemy seeks to perpetuate.

• Scripture: “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)

  • The enemy’s aim is destruction, but Christ offers life—abundant life. The war is not just about adultery; it’s about the spiritual health of the family and the generational legacy.

The side chick is not just a person. She is a spiritual strategy, a tool of the enemy to divide and conquer. Whether she is a wounded soul, a victim of manipulation, or an active agent of darkness, she is a vessel for spiritual warfare. But one thing is clear, this battle is not flesh and blood.

We must stop focusing solely on symptoms and start addressing the roots, the wounded hearts, the spiritual deceptions, and the spiritual warfare that shapes these choices. The church must rise up, husbands must wake up, and wives must war in prayer for the healing of marriages, families, and destinies.

This is not about judgment; it’s about deliverance.
This is not about shame; it’s about truth.
This is not about hate; it’s about healing.

Let the church arise. Let husbands wake up. Let wives war in prayer. Let women be healed. Let covenant be restored.